The Mingling Manners to The Other Guys

           One temptation in the teenage years is "an interest in the opposite". Indeed, the attraction towards the opposite is human nature, whether women or men. But if we can not manage the feelings, it will be a huge catastrophe foreseen, either for themselves or for people we like. As Muslim women we must be sure that we honor must be maintained and cared for, especially when communicating or associating with the opposite so that no danger or even slander.

Below we will express the mingling manners to the other guys

First: Forbidden to Mix Up

If there is a man alone with a female then the third one as a companion is the devil.
Umar bin Al Khottob said in front of humans in Jabiyah that, "Let not any one of you be alone with a woman (who is not mahram) because devil is the third person, then who are proud of the kindness and saddened by the notoriety he was a believer." (Narrated by Ahmad, hadeeth is saheeh sanad)

Second: Subduing Views

View of male to female or vice versa are included arrows of Satan. When looking at the opposite, then hurry up we have subjected the view that, before the devil enters or affects our minds and hearts. Immediately ask Allah SWT to help us not repeat that view.

Third: Keep the Genitals of The Opposite Guys

"O Prophet, tell your wives, your daughters and wives of the believers, Let them extend their scarf around their body,  That is so they are easier to be recognized, therefore they are not alone. And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. "(QS. al-Ahzab: 59)

Fourth: Forbidden to Mixed Up Between Women and Men

Ikhtilat  is mix up  a woman with men in one place without curtain. Where when there is no veil or barrier fabric of each woman or man can see the opposite very easily. Of course we as Muslim women do not want to be the object of the view by many men is not it? Therefore, we should lower his gaze, as any man has the same obligation to submit his views on women who are not “mahram”, because these are the commandments of Allah SWT in the Qur'an and would be a sin if we do not obey them.

Fifth: Keep The Pubic

Keeping pubic also not easy, because so many teens trapped in relationships. As Muslims we must know how to keep the pubic. The trick, among others, by not looking at the pictures of obscene or arouse lust, not too often read or watch stories of romance, not too often speak or communicate with the opposite, either speak directly (face to face) or by telephone, SMS, chat, IM and other communication media.

It is appropriate as a Muslim either adolescents or adults, we have a genuine intention to comply with the mingling manners to the other guys.

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